Tuesday, August 1, 2017

People's Mistakes and My Own Wrongdoings

Don't make people mistake as your excuse for your wrongdoing.
Pertama kali saya denger kalimat ini... kayaknya waktu SMA. Lupa sih waktu itu konteksnya apa, tapi baru-baru ini saya mengalami, hmm lebih tepatnya mendengar curhatan temen saya yang bikin saya jadi keingetan lagi soal kalimat itu.

Seringkali sih, yang kejadian sama saya tuh yang kayak gini : kalo lagi kerja, terus main candy crush dulu sampe jam 10, yang kepikiran adalah "ah, si A juga main dulu. Nggak apa-apalah aku main juga, nanti juga dia main terus, aku masih ngerjain," (kemudian mendadak jago jadi gak abis-abis lives-nya). Atau, ya udah sih aku tidur-tiduran dulu weekend ini, kemaren juga si abang tidur sampe siang nggak ada yang ngomelin,"

Masalahnya tuh sebenernya bukan di main candy crush-nya, atau di tidur-tiduran pas weekend-nya, tapi karena pembenaran yang saya lakukan itu. Kayak, dalam hati kecil saya, saya tau, akan jauh lebih baik kalau saya main candy crush-nya pas istirahat kerja, atau karena kerjaan saya santai, ya pas saya lagi ngantuk-ngantuknya setelah jam makan siang biar bangun lagi, atau pas kerjaan saya udah beres. Tapi, saya ngerasa I'm not doing greater sins than what my other friend did. Ngerasa aman lah intinya.

Padahal, we are all accountable for what we are doing, kan? Bukan berarti kalo ada orang ngelakuin hal yang salah, terus saya jadi sedikit berkurang nilai kesalahannya karena yang saya lakuin nggak sampe ke level orang yang bersalah itu.

Yang bikin saya benar-benar sadar sama hal ini adalah pas saya denger orang ngomong, "lah, kalo dia aja iya, kenapa aku nggak boleh?" Karena menurut orang ini, si orang pertama yang dia omongin itu mestinya kualitasnya udah top banget.

Saya jadi mikir sendiri, saya nggak mau, kan, dijadiin alesan buat orang lain melakukan kesalahan? Ya terus kenapa saya pun ngambil standar baik/buruk dan benar/salah itu dari orang lain, bukannya dari nilai yang saya percayai?

Obrolan-obrolan dan kejadian-kejadian di sekeliling saya ini jadi bikin saya sadar, batas-batas toleransi yang dilonggarkan, itu mungkin awalnya dari sini. Dari membenarkan apa yang kita anggap salah pada awalnya, hanya karena kita yakin banget orang lain ngelakuin kesalahan yang lebih berat dari kita. Padahal mah, ya siapa yang tau nilai perbuatan seseorang, kan? Menulis tentang ini pun bukan berarti saya udah sepenuhnya nggak pernah mikir kayak gini sih, hehe. Namanya juga proses, sedikit-sedikit, insya Allah lama-lama jadi orang yang lebih baik ya? Aamiin.

Ps. Tapi seriusan, main candy crush soda saga itu seru pisan gapaham lagi :")

Friday, July 14, 2017

Mampir ke Yogyakarta

I'm scratching two of my traveling list in the first half of the year! Yay. Hope I can't scratch another off the list by the end of the year (though it's unlikely... a girl can always dream, right ;))

Perjalanan saya ke Yogyakarta weekend kemarin, ceritanya dalam rangka menghadiri pernikahan teman saya yang diselenggarakan di sana. Tadinya memang saya mau sekalian main ke rumah teman saya yang di Semarang, tapi karena satu dan lain hal, akhirnya saya langsung ke Yogya.

When the city is probably a very common destination for holiday, my last time visiting Yogyakarta was on my second year of Junior High School, for a school trip. I didn't even remember the city from back then. So I was excited about the trip even though I know that I won't be exploring so much since I came for my friend's occasion (and still no driving ability, thankyouverymuch).

I and my friend went by train on Thursday night and arrived in Yogya around 6 in the morning. We were picked up at the station and went to have gudeg for breakfast in Jalan Wijilan.

left : breakfast. right : second breakfast XD

After that, we went to the hotel, but since we can't check in early, we were sitting in the lobby and after that grab another breakfast in the cafe next to the hotel. Both of the hotel and the cafe were very nicely decorated. I already put a link for both if you're interested :)

decoration at the hotel
a wall in the cafe
Our next schedule was to pick up our friends from the airport. And after that, before check in, went for lunch near our hotel.

It's already 3 in the afternoon when we went back to the hotel. And as we have an occasion to attend that night, we decided to take a short break before getting ready to go again. I spend half of my late afternoon walking around Jalan Prawirotaman with two of my friend instead of sleeping though. Apparently, the street was kind of developed lately and there were so many guest house, hotels, and small and cute shops along the way. If you're interested to visit this particular neighborhood, read more here.
here's where we went for lunch
The next day, we started early to attend the wedding ceremonies. I managed to go around UGM university with my friend just for a while before went back to the party. Our schedule after that was to go back to the hotel, and getting ready to catch my train at 17.45 in Stasiun Tugu.

The ceremony was held in Masjid UGM.
Around 2 in the afternoon, after the whole celebration is done and I'm ready with my bags, we went for a drive. Supposedly to Sangkring Art Space, but before we arrived, our friends told us that the place is closed. We change direction to Stasiun Tugu instead because we need to catch the train. And in that particular day, Yogyakarta was on heavy traffic. And there goes my Malioboro walking trip :(.

left : tiada lengkap tanpa es krim McD yang belinya drivethru | right : street in yogyakarta 
I managed to visit Malioboro, though. After arriving at the Stasiun Tugu around 4, I and my friends walk to Malioboro, eat the first bakso we saw on the street (we're hunggggry), and walk along the way until it's time for us to board the train. Malioboro was super nice, I would love to be back again and explore the street thoroughly.

street art
The glory of public space :)
And so, there was my episode of 'Mampir ke Yogyakarta'. See you next time in a better schedule, dear city :)

Tuesday, May 9, 2017

For Now, Maybe It's Not for Me

What do you want to be?

The answer changes over time. When I was a kid, I remember I wanted to be an architect. At some point on high school, I have wanted to be a script writer, and there's also a time when I want to be a person who do voice over for advertisement.

I went to architecture school after finishing high school. Still likes to write and still love the sound of people who does voice over. But maybe that's not for me.

As I graduate from the school, and being a junior architect for a year, I often wonder, if this is what I want. Drawing on computer, overworked, arrived home in the morning just to be at the office again more or less at 9, whining every time I met my friend... I guess I am not. So I quit.

I guess I wasn't cut out for being in the office. Maybe that's not for me.

I love doing DIY, so I started trying things like doodling and book binding, but 8 months later, I was going nowhere near any stationery business I thought I want to have. Also not inch closer to any graduate school application I thought I had wanted. I told everyone, I don't know what I want to study, I don't want to messed up (or maybe just afraid).

Maybe continuing the school is not for me.

So I'm back being in the office again even though I thought it wasn't for me just the year before. This time as a junior landscape architect. Thankfully the working situation is much better than the first one though I can't say that it was the best. Maybe specializing in landscape is for me, maybe I just got to know about it right now.

After 1.5 years, I quit again, this time, I got offered another architect job in which I can work from home. I thought I want that; at that time, I realize that no matter how hard it was doing my work, how I was actually overworked and no matter how much I whine, there's part of me that likes doing it.

Maybe this is for me.

And not working full time was the ultimate on my wishlist. Imagine working from home, setting up a home office, actually doing what I like, making stationery products in between, traveling without having to worry about filling the leave form. I was excited of the opportunity.

Maybe this is for me.

But after spending couple of weeks doing nothing, working with speed of snail (like, I finish presentation slides for a week while I can do the whole thing in a day when I was still in the office), and the temptation of watching anything as fast as the episode is out, makes me realize that maybe this is not for me. I'm doing trips to the office again just 1.5 months after.

I can be the girl who prefer to be home all weekend, reading in my room to going out and watch movies, settle with whatever food in the house because I'm too lazy to go out and looking for more choice of food outside, but apparently, working from home is not for me.

On a conversation with a friend of mine, we agree that we actually need to wear good clothes and being outside of the house to work. That doesn't mean I don't prefer being at home, or I wanted to work in an office forever, it just means that maybe the thing is not for me.

In the future, there'll be more things that maybe not for me now, but later. Or vice versa. I'm pretty sure of that. Bottom line is, these last couple years, I've been trying all the things I thought both for me and not for me. I went here and there, doing this and that, coming out from the comfort zone and find the other. I guess there's still so much I can try, there's still so much things out there waiting for me to embrace and maybe to left once I know it is apparently not for me.

I guess, impossible is only impossible when it's proven that it is impossible :)

Tuesday, May 2, 2017

Singapore Trip : Walking Around the Neighborhood

From the bus station accross the street of my hostel
Since my last Singapore Trip was kind of unplanned (like, tooootally unplanned, even more than my last Seoul-Busan trip), I search for my destination when I'm already arrived. And because I mostly travel alone, I can walk around the neighborhood of my destination and spend as much time as I want in the said destination.

1. Tiong Bahru

I've wanted to visit this neighborhood since 2014 because it is a neighborhood where Books Actually and Books in the Woods are located, and there are several articles said that mention this neighborhood on their walking trip post. I didn't go to the Tiong Bahru Plaza or its new food place though since my destination was the bookstores, and the day was so hot and since I didn't had proper breakfast I was literally shaking with hunger (cue to run to the nearest McD). But even with that, I still have a rather satisfying walking trip around the neighborhood.

2. Arab Street and Haji Lane

I actually missed this very popular Singapore destination on my first visit that I made this my first destination on my recent trip. I went here late in the afternoon, after checking in on my hostel just to spend the rest of the day. My first impression was that the neighborhood is not as big as I expected, and since I'm alone (and a cheapskate and kind of confused since my internet connection wasn't working (at first. It works after a while)) I didn't really got into any restaurant or shops there. But since I was waiting for Maghrib time to pray in Masjid Sultan, I got to spend and explore the neighborhood a little bit longer than I would if I didn't; and it was pretty :)

One of my destination on my last day in Singapore was Singapore City Gallery. I went here last time, but I like the atmosphere of the neighborhood and also love the city scale-model that I want to visit the place again. 

While the area around Maxwell Street was under construction (that I hardly recognize it), I finally able to visit the Red Dot Design Museum (which apparently cost me 8SGD and, well... not really my favorite place :p). Since it was around midday, I search for mosque and found out that Al Abrar Mosque is located within walking distance from the museum, so I decided to go there first and found out that it was actually a nice walking trail with shaded and not so busy street and pretty shop houses along the street.

4. Emerald Hill

I literally found this neighborhood by accident since I was insisting on walking from Masjid Al Falah (located near Paragon Shopping Center) to Plaza Singapura (which is actually 1.1 km and the I-should-have-ride-the-bus thought upon arrival in Plaza Singapura). The street was uphill (that is how I got tired from walking the rest of the route to Plaza Singapura lol) but the houses were beautiful. It is said that the architecture has the Chinese-Baroque style, and it's actually very quiet and peaceful oasis within the busy and crowded Orchard street (aside from fully air conditioned Library @ Orchard I visit earlier :D).

5. Victoria Street and Middle Road

I didn't actually walk the whole street in a day like the other neighborhood I visit, but here's some places you can visit at once while you are in the area.

I started early on my second day and went to Chijmes, a beautiful historic building complex which is now reused as a restaurant and event place. I went there before the restaurants are open, so it was empty. You can explore the whole place and read the history of the building that was displayed in some spots inside the building.

I went to Tiong Bahru afterwards but back to the street again to go to Bras Basah Complex. On the way, I found a signage directing to Bencoolen Mosque so I decided to went there first. But then, at the junction of Victoria Street and Middle Street (where I supposed to cross the road to Bras Basah Complex) I found the National Design Museum, and decided to visit there after Bencoolen Mosque. 

On the way to Bencoolen Mosque
Wisdom found on the way
Inside the National Design Museum
So when you are around the area, you can start with National Design Museum, National Library of Singapore (which is on the other side of the junction), Bras Basah Complex, and Chijmes at the end.


The best thing about walking around the neighborhood is finding the unexpected destination on the way. Of course it might not applied everywhere, but since my last walking trip in Seoul (in which I found the city scale-model without being aware of it, best finding ever!), I realize that these unplanned destination brought more joy as you just don't expect it on the first place. And the more joy, the more memorable the travel experience is.

Also, the more I appreciate the unplanned things, the less stress I got from not planning anything in the first place.

Cheers for more fun in future walking trips!

Friday, April 28, 2017

Singapore Trip : A List for Book-Place Hopping

(I legit want to have it titled A List for Nerdy-Spot Hopping but I'm not sure if that's a correct use of words xp)

Years back, I often stumble into quizzes in which you need to answer several questions about a topic and write them on your blog/facebook notes just to tell things about yourself. One of the topic was about reading and there's always this one question that makes me wonder : what is the title of the book you last checked out from the library?

My answer would always be academic reference book because that is what a library is about almost my whole life and the closest library to me is the university library. When I was a kid though, when I went to my grandparents' house, my grandmother sometimes took me to the public library and l read a lot of Baby Sitter's Club books but that's the only non-academic experience about library and its been a looooong time ago.

The last time I was in Singapore, I had this chance to totally channeling my reading-self (since I mostly exploring the city alone) by visiting a lot of books-related places. Here are the list and maybe it could be the next place on your list too.

1. Bras Basah Complex

Search Bras Basah Complex in google and you'll find that the place is often associated with books. I was interested to visit the complex after reading this post about second-hand books there. When I visit this place on my second day, I think there's some kind of second-hand book fair right in the center of the building. It was huge and the deal was soooo good (like, 10 SGD for 3 books in fair condition!).

still regret for not buying :(

I didn't end up buying for myself though (the cheapskate cell taking over) because I pack light and there's seriously no room for anything if I decided to buy anything (that was my reasoning, but I definitely regret it now -,-) so I only bought two for a friend of mine.

Other than that, I also visit Cat Socrates, a cute souvenir shops in the second floor of the building. If you don't have much time, you can always search the internet for shops in Bras Basah Complex, write down their number and visit them accordingly. But I believe there must be hidden gems in this complex I haven't found (and so, another reason for me to go there again).

cutest postcards and things you never know you needed :)

If you do visit here, be careful with the escalator (ha!), and took your time to explore the rows of the shops. You might get some interesting vintage shots, book related.

2. National Library

I visit this place on a whim since I need to cross the street to go to Bras Basah Complex and this building positioned right in the junction next to it, and so I decided to visit this first. National Library Singapore was a huuuuge and tall building like most office building in Jakarta. I don't even believe myself when I read that there's an exhibition on level 10 (like, what library is more than 10 stories? I surely am visiting a whole new world).
Bugis area from National Library
Anyway, since there's a security in every level in the entrance to the collection, I wasn't exploring the inside of the library because I'm not sure if I was allowed to be inside. I was just taking the escalators to see whether the library really has 10 stories or more or not (me and my messed up priorities). When I about to exit the building though, I found out this place has a fiction collection in its lower ground. So I went there for a bit and, sighed, how to have that kind of library in my own city?
fiction collection

3. Bishan Public Library
Bishan Public Library
On my first trip I was actually planning to visit this library for one sole reason of seeing a building that was featured in Archdaily. I couldn't make it back then so I did plan to visit this library on my third day.

Bishan was about 12 km from the Downtown Core (MBS, Merlion Park, etc) and I was going there by MRT and planning to went back to Orchard by bus. The library is nicely located right next to the MRT and bus station so it wasn't hard for me to find it.

book-related quotes on the ramp's wall
The building is a bit smaller than the National Library and there is no security. The first level is for magazine and a coffee shop and also a space for children. At the left side of the entrance, there's a ramp to the second floor which is the place for fiction collection and at the end of the room, there's a separate place for study with desk and tables.

I picked up a book randomly and read there, just because xp.

the book I picked up! almost staying for the rest of the day
The next two level was pretty much the same except there are some hanging study room with colorful glasses. You can see these rooms from the outside and even gets into one if there's an empty one (I was afraid though :p).

4. Library @ Orchard

My friend visited this on her trip once and I can't believe I missed that (turns out it wasn't even there on May 2014, so...). The library was located in the third floor of Orchard Gateway. Yup, in the middle of a bustling shopping mall in a shopping street. A total oasis.

What I love about this library is that it's just soooo pretty. Once you stepped inside, there's a different feeling from the hectic Orchard Road you've just been. It has this elegantly designed shelves and reading nook in the second floor (or fourth floor). The fiction collection? Wow it was mad. I mean, I even went mad for seeing books in a book fair in which I can't obtain without paying. What is the reason for me not to be mad when all the books are there for free.

Anyway, I spend a longer time here since I was waiting for my brother for lunch. I told you, it was a wonderful place to read. I even went there again to read in the afternoon before meeting my brother again in MBS.

Reading space with city view
If you went to Orchard Road with some friends and you prefer to read rather than to shop, just spend your time here. A. Total. Sanctuary.

5. Books Actually and Woods in the Books

This is also a destination I missed on my first trip; a hip bookstore and a children bookstore in Tiong Bahru area. I didn't spend too much time there since there's only so much time you can spend on a running store without intention to buy anything. But visiting both book store was actually enjoyable for me. Especially because both are an aesthetically pleasing store.

no taking pictures inside
vending machine for books!
Other than that, the neighborhood was kind of pretty and there are some hip eating place around too.

6. Library @ Esplanade

I visit Library @ Esplanade on my last day just before I had to go to the airport. It was an art library where you can see a room for dance practice and rows of, instead of book, audio and visual collection related to dance, music, and movie. The interior of this library is pretty but the collection itself was segmented. But it was still a good place to visit as an addition to the Esplanade.

artworks outside the library

Visiting all these book-related places makes me feel totally elated. Some people might related to this and some people might not, but in a way, it's like finding my own hiding place. Especially those library, how if I have one here in my own country, I would definitely spend most of my time there :). Cheers for better library near your area in the future!